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我终始认为，从个人角度看，人生中最重要的，是使自己成为一个什么样的人，我们建立的一切人际关系应为此而服务，而不是反过来，我们生而为人，只是被动地成为一个不合格的父母与社会成员，从而艰辛地一混到底——我坚持认为，人不该因为孤独寂寞成家立业，那是软弱与任性。我更认为，两个软弱任性的人混到一起，是加倍地软弱与任性，那只会相互挤压，而不是创造出一个更舒展的空间，这还不如一个人混好。

当我们谈到人群与责任时，我们始终需要记取，我们最可能成为什么样的人，与我们的父辈是什么样的人关系最大——而我们的孩子最可能成为什么样的人，与我们关系最大。当我们没有学会对自己尽责时，我们怎好意思享受别人对我们的责任？

当我们成为一个对别人有用的人，我们会很自然地融入人际关系之中。相反，我们融入人际关系，只是为了从中索取，那会我使我们尝尽人际关系中的辛酸——只因别人并不是真的需要我们。

我很看不惯一种诉苦的腔调儿，在那种腔调儿里，一个人似乎根本没有机会做成自己，只能成为人际关系的奴隶，一个人的一生，似乎是被要求着走完从生到死的全过程的，一点办法也没有。

其实我们谁都知道，我们只是亦步亦趋地落入了自私懒惰的陷阱，我们对自己毫无要求，最终，我们拉上几个与我们差不多的同伴，一同无助、艰难而委屈地生活，我们总是弱者，总是大多数，并且，我们此刻只好别无选择地认为大多数是对的，我们的痛苦，全因有人欺负、欺骗、欺压我们，我们根本没有看到别人对自己的帮助，我的理解力无法理解那种巨大的帮助，我们永远回避的，是自己并未真的对自己尽责尽力——我们的目标，从来就不是成为一个对别人有用的人，在最多方面对别人有用的人，而只是一个试图通过人际关系得到好处的人，我们以为顺着别人说话，给别人一些笑脸就可使我们蒙混过关，但事实总是无情地击碎我们的想法，我们无能力助人，别人怎会认真看等我们？我们不比别人更努力，怎么获得助人的能力？

在我们的文化氛围里，我们中的大多数，甚至没有什么真正拿得出手的私人兴趣，自我满足都做不到或做不好，只是一个人捱着抓着腻着拉着另一个，无论高兴或不高兴，似乎只得如此，这种悲惨景象已不是八卦，而是真正的无聊——到何时人们才能体验到，一个人，全神贯注地去学习去了解去发现某事，那会使人的自我感觉非常良好，一个人忘我地工作，会使人生充实有力。

我见到太多人，一生中一件事也做不好，这些人一生中并未真正去热爱什么，也未忘我地为什么而努力工作，这令我们毫无个性与斗志，我们为何会如此？这让我翻回头去看我们的文化，因这文化为我们的人生提供氛围，而这氛围令我充满怀疑，因它不能塑造令人幸福的积极个性。

for the sake of my dear mum, i upload the pictures i took in Spain, because everytime i am too lazy to update my photo after travelling......Bacelona is such a wonderful place that your could see different artists giving performance in the street! I saw Flamengo show in Madrid, and the environment there in Spain is like China so much!few people care whether they wear luxury brand clothes or not, a lot of cheap shops and people can always find places to eat!  now back in Milan, still feel the sweety like home, maybe i always complain milan is a shity city, but everytime i expect to leave, then always expect to come back! because i have life, study and dear friends here^__^

PUCK:

 

this afternoon, someone talked with me about some reality, and i think i really need to think about that, maybe the few words really give me some effects and i need to reconsider my direction of future....but don't worry, the change might not seem so miserable and it needs time to verify,

by the way, i have moved to the school's new dorm which is big and facinating, and i will decorate it to my own style and welcome to my place, my dear friends!

and my parents will also come to visit me next year! 

昨晚比赛加时赛最后一分钟，克罗地亚欢呼着他们认为已决定比赛结果的制胜一球，然而在最后一秒钟，土耳其的巧妙一脚将克罗地亚逼入点球大赛，最后获胜，像刘建宏说的，克罗地亚人都傻了，摆在眼前的一道大餐，又被人拿走了，不能吃了。 国内球迷大呼：这夜熬得值！！

 

贴上对中国足球的评论：

中国队世界杯出线的五个必决条件：

1 国际足联给南极洲一个出线名额

2 中国队加入南极洲足协

3 中国队和企鹅争夺一个出线名额

4 中国队客场逼平企鹅

5 中国队主场设在广州 热死企鹅出线

 今天把我乐得不行了，一下课,zhu wei就跑过来和turi说:我等会上课要presentation,你能不能等会把皮带借我带一下呀???????

我坐在旁边直接喷饭,就算是很好的男性同性朋友,也没有提出这样"过分"的要求呀,哈哈,看把turi弄得小脸红着左右为难,后来居然听说

人好到真把皮带借给zhu wei,结果因为自个腰太细,所以没派上用场.......

 

还听说tt为了练习意大利语的大舌音,总是在宿舍里面边踱步边大声喊:ragazza, ragazza,女人呀女人,别人外面听见了还不知道里面的人怎么了~~~

  转自论坛：

知道自己有很多东西要学，还是好像找不回年轻时那种读书的狂热劲，可能自己已经不再年轻了，为什么以前觉得20多岁的人都很成熟呢，偏偏自己到了这个年龄还是觉得自己像个小孩一样，还是想和爸爸妈妈撒撒娇，当他们的乖宝宝呢。。。。。。哎，最终只会引来旁人一阵狂吐。可是我依然觉得人该严肃的时候要严肃，可在日常生活中板着脸孔装成熟严肃，全身像绷紧即将断裂的皮筋一样，那生活还有什么乐趣呀。

所以看见一些朋友能够活出自己的风采来，才真正为他们高兴，想做什么就敢做什么 (当然是在不违反法律和社会道德的前提下,hehe)人活着不就图个痛快二字吗\\\

敏姬说我还是像以前一样能侃，其实我不高兴的时候能安静地吓死人，哈哈，大家不都是普通人吗，哪有每时每刻都处于开心兴奋的状态，但只要真实地活出你自己就好，就像我完全可以像别人一样在博客里写些带着忧伤情调的关于感情，生活，人生观的小文字，抒发一下文学情怀，虽然每次看这些人的博客时都感动地我一把眼泪一把鼻涕地，但我不是这样的人，所以干脆不写，只会在一张费掉的白纸上漫无边际地慰藉一下自己的思绪，然后丢尽垃圾筒里扔掉，人，有的时候要活得洒脱一些。。。。。。

我不是什么哲学家，平时说话有些无厘头，但是如果你想和我讨论一些人生观事情的时候，可能我会比你想得更深，只是在生活上，我觉得，人，活着还是简单快乐点好，所以保持自己的灿烂微笑好了，这样既能延长寿命，又可以减少些额头的皱纹，何乐而不为呢

 

 PS.亲爱的妈咪，最近电脑惨烈牺牲，正在休假中，我用了别人的电脑上网，打不了电话回家，不要担心生气呦。。。

 When a person really desires something, all the universe conspires to help that person to realize his dream!!

                                                                                                  -------------------------------------from ( <alchemist>---paulo coelho )

 

These days I am thinking about what my life should be like  ( not to be standardised by how much money I will earn, but by how much feeling of happiness I will embrace.... )

 

Sometimes I could even see there  exsits several ways to approach what I want  even though future is still and always keeping unpredictable.....

 

It will always be hard along the road to terminal, (actually since there never exists terminal, I could call it "current terminal") but I AM NOT AFAID!!

Suffering is always much better than the fearing of suffering!

 

 

 

 

总结了一下各位兄弟姐妹们的经典语录和口头禅，和习惯动作，不符合事实的可以上诉！

 

WY:湖南口音 “那确实是~~~~~~~~~~”，失去一点你将得到全世界！！！plus 无数个感叹号

YM: 习惯性，或不自觉无意识情况下到处放电！

LY: perche???? 好吧！！！！最近在走可爱路线和患上“gym上瘾症“

TT:我以前可水灵了！！！！我现在每天要喝2升水~~~~~~~排毒！！！！！

ZW:熊猫好可爱，丁丁，你好像香港明星胡杏儿呀（虽然我不知道胡杏儿是谁，不会是邪星吧？？）

FF: 我在玩，最近都没看书！我还在玩~~~~ （玩也能考高分，佩服！）

AG: 还我钱！！！

 

本人短期目标：样子美美，心情美美地步入下学期，嘿嘿，臭屁一下~~~~

大家都加油！！！和意大利女生比不了样子比身材，比不了身材比成绩，比不了成绩，还有可以比说中文呀！！！ 哈哈哈哈！！

 

 

 

I have never met a teacher as nice as Saita before, attached is his letter to all the students in Finance class, share with all of u and give me encouragement as well!! *___*

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Dear all,
as you already know, I will have to cease from my position as the course director in a couple of
weeks. After the incredible experience I had in the past three years as the director of the M.Sc. in
Finance, it is impossible to summarize and share all my feelings in this moment. I would only
like to say to each of you two simple things.
1. Directing Clefin/Finance is one of the things in my career I have been most proud of. I have
spent three intense years putting all my efforts to make things better, even if I know that many
more things could have been done and some will certainly be managed by Laura Zanetti (who
will always have my total and unconditioned support) better than I did. The intensity of a number
of personal relationships that have emerged in these years has been for me an incredible reward
for the few things I have done. I sincerely admire the effort, passion and dedication that almost
all of you have put in your experience as Clefin/Finance graduate students. All the faculty and I
have always felt responsible for that, as we were trying to create the best program in Finance we
could imagine. But we all know that all our effort would have been worthless if we had not
found exceptional students and people as you are. The change in the direction of the program
will not be a problem at all, but rather an opportunity, exactly because the team of people in the
faculty who have been striving to increase the program visibility will remain the same.
2. I wish to each of you that you could always be able to go on pursuing your aims with the same
passion you have shown so far. The years of the M.Sc. in Finance have been and/or will be for
most of you a critical passage between university and the job market, as a part of a more general
crucial and unique stage in your life. There are two things that I have always said to myself first
– and those who know me better than others will understand why these ideas derive from my
profound beliefs – and that I wanted to share with you. The first one is that everybody should
fight for what she or he considers important, without just desiring it in a passive and static way.
This is true for your job, but for your life as a whole, in which you will be asked to take greater
and greater responsibility through time. The second one is that the value of each person does not
depend on the results she or he may achieve; it does not depend on whether she or he will work
in London, or on whether she will be paid a lot, or on whether she will have a very visible and
well-considered job. This is why everybody should remain humble during successes and
determined and confident during failures. You will unavoidably experience a mix of both during
your life, but they will make evident the kind of person you are and give always chance for
further change.
I have been lucky because my experience at Bocconi as a student has been an experience of
passion, intensity, hard work and friendship, and has helped me become the person I am now,
with all my limitations and with all my merits. Even if I will no longer be the director, I will
always be proud to witness your talent, curiosity and personal maturity grow and bloom here at
Bocconi and wherever you will be working in future years.
With all best wishes for Christmas (that is so important to me), and for an exciting New Year
Francesco Saita

Tomorrow is the last day in school before christmas, today I saw so many students hug and exchange wishes to each other,yes, everyone is leaving!

Wish u merry Christmas!!!

DING DING

 

每次看到一个人为了某本书,某段音乐,某部电影执着的样子, 心里都会小小地感动一下,因为正是这些小小的特殊癖好才让这个人这么特别!

感谢上天让我遇到了这么多可爱的人!感谢这些人与我分享他们自己的快乐!我也很快乐,真的..............

我的特殊癖好又是什么呢???

晚上走出图书馆的门,发现一拨一拨的老年人走进来, 才发现原来晚上有钢琴表演,所以一个人进去了,后来居然遇到同学julia,就在表演中场休息时聊了起来:

我说我来这里,人们都对我好好..从上次交换时lorenzo来接我和让我第一次看到雪后duomo的夜景,到住进宿舍时不懂英文的看门老大爷给我提上来的两大桶水,,,,,,,,,

这次来意大利,又有了一些美好的回忆, 在小白兔的宿舍楼下自习时,一个素味相识的外国女生请我喝她亲手煮的热柠檬茶,前几天在four season hotel 的deutsche bank women event 结束时, 一位老先生在酒店里弹琴,我凑上前去,他问我从哪里来,我说中国,他居然为我演奏了<月亮代表我的心>~~~~~~~~~,还有现在和lili,xixi住在一起的幸福小屋~~~~~~~

太多了,最近因为scholarship的事有点心烦,不过想到这些就感觉好多了~~~ 完了,不想结尾了,嘿嘿,就这样吧~~睡了

 

这两天混迹于广州的各大书店,终于让我浮躁的心灵等到平静和解脱了,因为我遇到了自己的"人生宝典",哈哈哈哈~~

转入正题,据本小姐几日在书店k书,发现现在的中国图书市场有几大特点,特总结如下

 

一,每个领域的图书都有个国外大师级的领军人物,如人生励志类的有卡耐基,金融投资类的有巴菲特

二,居然大部分书店都有专门针对女性朋友的女性读物,不过这类书和励志累的书籍一样有一本足以,看多了和没看一样~~

三,随着股市大热,一本本所谓"新股民手册"荣登图书销量的榜首,我仿佛看到出书人数着大把银子的得意嘴脸,心寒呀~~

四,关心经济投资的还是男读者为多,所以本人站在那里看理财投资书时招来男同志们的一致侧目

五,网络小说和校园爱情小说包装精良,可内容实在是垃圾,不过这些的确是爱幻想的小女生们的最爱,55555,俺老了~~~

六,一般的打折书都以烹调美食类为主,真正的好书很少打折,书店才没有那么傻呢

 

总之,书店还是比俺们学校的图书馆好,俺们学校的图书馆里的书太不与时惧进了,而且我经常借来的书也不是很认真地看完,很多时候

那些可怜的书被我放到一边睡大觉,书非借而不能读也,这句话不适合那些借图书馆的书身上...

ps  广州购书中心有2个卖外文书籍的地方,但有些同样的书籍价格却不同,大家要好好比较呦~~~~~

 

good good study, day day up!!

 

亲爱的220.亲爱的旅管同学们.

前天参加了表妹的毕业典礼,看着他们手捧鲜花,争相留影的一张张笑脸,我却忍不住想哭了,因为这让我想起了你们,想起了一同度过的青青葱葱的大学时光.请大家原谅我会不辞而别,离开这个让人割舍不下的城市,原谅我不想同你们说再见,因为在我的心底一直希望将来彼此能在某个地点再相遇!!!

EVERYTHING IS GONNA TO BE ALL RIGHT!

祝你们幸福!!

丁丁  草上

What will be will be, even if there will not be, so what??

u've already got many!!

不要急,不要恼,有些东西终究会成为你的,就算没有,你也已经拥有了许多!

-----写给一位失恋的朋友和所有正在伤心的人们

 

回家的感觉太舒服了,合肥好象还是和以前一样,一点都没变,所以总是能在街头巷尾给我一点点的惊喜,回忆起童年的美好时光.前天和表妹在太阳城逛着逛着,她说要请我吃"花脸",我正在纳闷"花脸"是什么,听着挺耳熟的,突然前面走过来一对情侣,一人拿着一根"花脸",天那,那不是我小学时最爱吃的冰棒嘛!每次和好友跳完皮筋后都要来上两根,但初中后这种冰棒就从此销声匿迹,被"和路雪""伊利","蒙牛"等代替,害我那时还伤心了一段时间.那对情侣看见我的眼神,立马护住他们的"花脸",生怕被俺抢了去.....ps: 此"花脸"在太阳城销路极其好,看来大家都和我一样,在怀念着逝去的童年呀!

3号在我家举行了一场小型的高中同学聚会,没请来的同学别怪我,实在是场地原因,就是来的10多个人,也是好不容易找齐凳子才够坐人的(连我的钢琴凳也用来坐上了2人,不容易拉,呵呵),下次有机会一定补上.吃火锅时由于往锅里下的不知是年糕还是粉条太多,后来居然烧胡了,哈哈,快笑死我了......估计那一群人没吃饱,回家又恶补了一顿(因为本小姐就是这样,嘿嘿),好久没看到这群人,感觉一些人变化很大,但大部分都还像以前一样,还是那一群向高考奋进的小毛孩子们充实而又快乐地生活着每一天!!这里我要夸一下咱们合肥一中的人拉,真的各个都在大学里混得很不错,大部分都保上研究生了,有浙大,南大的.我这个要出国的人,也要加油拉!!

像韩剧里面那样,喊一声"A...ZA....A....ZA....FIGHTING!!!"